Wednesday, February 24

How Not to Message a Match: Curb the Desperation

I just got what is apparently the third email from a guy named Brian. I honestly couldn't remember having conversed with him before, so I checked. I had indeed received previous emails from him, one of which I replied to. I was friendly but not exactly inviting. His recent email opener? He was "thinking of me yesterday". Brian isn't aware of the line between sweet longing and obnoxious desperation. This has been a common problem, I've noticed, from a lot of online-daters. A little too much, much too soon.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

I feel like a lot of guys (online daters or not) are like this. I have 'friends' that will call/txt/email too frequently with a girl early in a relationship (or before there really is a relationship). It's nervousness and desperation and women are smart enough to pick up on this. These are beta males, avoid them.

Allison said...

Avoid beta males. Check. Yeah, I've met a lot of needy/desperate guys. It's not attractive on either sex.