Now THIS is an interesting topic: Are You Dressing for Men... or Women?
I've always been disgustedly fascinated with the American obsession of obtaining the feminine ideal. Girls are coddled from an early age into thinking there's one way to be a woman. Gross. We learned that hotness matter more than anything else in finding a man. Oh and being hot is really hard! You've got to fit the part: heels, skirts, pink, pretty, sweet but edgy, naive but a little dirty, curvy but mostly skinny. And now is the time to reel it in: how does this affect dating?
Women constantly compare themselves to other women: are my hips as wide as that? Is her cleavage too scandalous? Are my arms that squishy? Am I hotter than her? It's dangerous. We're so focused on how we compare to the mannequin at the store that we forget that the mannequin isn't what guys are attracted to. Earth to girls: Men like women!
So the next obvious question: How does one dress for men? Work on your conservative sexy: all you need are self-assurance and self-appreciation. These things seem to take some time to develop but you can fake it for now. Just tell yourself you rock and pretty soon you'll start to believe it, too. Don't be skanky sexy because it's not sexy. It's just skanky. Skanky means you're trying too hard to show off, which means you're not self-assured. Make sure you're projecting the idea that you love and respect yourself and that you're proud of what you've got. You should be.
Oh, and stop wearing so much jewelry.
And stop wearing so much make-up.
And, yes, I approve of heels even though doctors say anything over 2 inches is dangerous.
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2 comments:
I definitely value a compliment on my attire more from a woman than a man because they usually get why you wore that barrette in your hair whereas most guys I know wonder "why bother?" However, as nice as it is to receive a compliment from either sex, I always dress true to myself and anything else is a bonus, I suppose. I like to experiment with clothing and styles and regardless if someone may have said something flattering about an outfit, if I'm uncomfortable, I won't be wearing it again. I agree that it's the confidence that you have when you wear something that helps you pull it off and you achieve that confidence when you like what you have on.
I get what you're saying and tooootally agree. I'm not advising that a girl wear something that's not her style or not comfortable. Besides that, I think guys are attracted to the girl who shows she's a real person through what she wears. So good point, Loren. I didn't mean to ensue that our worlds should revolve around the opinions of men, because that would just be ridiculous. But if you're a lady looking to lure a man, dress with men in mind.
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