Let's talk about dates and clothes. And seven layer bars.
First dates call for casual style, personal beauty, and subtle sexuality. Can we agree that it's important to save your bombshell ensemble for later on? I'm all about rules here, folks. Have you noticed that? I like rules. The rule is save your sexiest garb for later dates. Instead, work something that's easy, easygoing, and going to look good on you.
Arriving to a first date dressed in heels and a skirt can conceivably intimidate a guy or place undue pressure on the both of you. Do whatever you want, really, but I get the whole "skirts are scary" thing. I like being approachable rather than being the beauty from afar. I'm awkward, aloof, tall, and gorgeous* enough as it is, I don't need another reason for a guy to shut his yammer around me. I prefer to keep my sexy card until I've got a good report with my new man-friend.
One of my favorite ensembles is a pair of slim jeans, a low cut t-shirt with a form fitting jacket, minimal but effectively placed jewelry and nice sandals or flats--and of course some lady perfume, not my back-up man deodorant. I try to strike the "Hey, I'm looking nice for you, but it wasn't that hard and, frankly, I do it all the time". Not to let the cat out of the bag here but that's my standard fashion protocol.
Bottom Line: Pick some dependable favorites that make you feel at ease and look attractive.
Thoughts? Questions? Concerns? What do you wear on your firsty?
P.S. I made vegan seven layer bars: coconut milk in place of the evaporated condensed milk. They were really, seriously, uber fab delicious. Life is about layers and enjoying things that are uber fab good.
*I'm practicing my self-appraisal.
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4 comments:
Al, you are surely my Stacey and my Clinton! Now if only I could find someone to be my credit card....
It's a bummer about the no "back-up man deodorant" but you are right...
But I can't help but agree that comfy casual is the way.
P.S. I do have a question, well more like a request.... May I have that recipe for vegan 7 layer bars?
P.P.S.perhaps one should always carry a back up Vegan 7 Layer bar in their purse in case of emergencies, or course!
Yay! Glad you agree Rach!! And you know if back-up man deodorant is ok with you, go for it. Both Jess and I are closet fans of the stuff... You too?
I make a habit of carrying baked goods on me when I'm visiting bars. Usually it's so that I can easily befriend people but who knows what other problems they could solve!
Agreed on the attire. Hell, I have used that motto through any relationship or dating pool. I feel like if you're out in a push-up and heavy makeup, that guy will be seriously disappointed later when he finds out your boobs were made of tissues and you left your face on his pillow. Ouch. Many guys I know agree with this and prefer "the polished girl-next-door." Or maybe I just surround myself with people who agree with me?
How did the coconut milk sub in?! Was it the thick kind?
Magical Coconut Cookie Bars
Vegan Cookies Invade Your Cookie Jar
By Isa Moskowitz & Terry Hope Romero
1 14-ounce can coconut milk (light or regular)
2/3 cup dk brown sugar
2 cups graham cracker crumbs (about one plastic wrapped sectional)
1/2 cup melted margarine/butter (vegan or whatever)
2 tbs sugar
1 1/2 choco chips (ACTUALLY I used a mixture of butterscotch chips, cinnamon chips and chocolate chips. Do whatever you want)
2 cups flaked, sweetened coconut (i used the natural, unsweetened kind even though Isa advises otherwise)
1 cup walnuts or pecans, chopped
Whisk together the coconut milk and brown sugar over medium high heat. Bring to a boil, then reduce heat so it can simmer. Stir occasionally to reincorporate the skin that'll form. After 10 minutes, remove from heat and let cool. (I didn't really let my milk cook, so the chips kind of melted later)
Preheat oven to 350. Grease/parchment paper a 9x13 inch pan. Mix the graham cracker crumbs with the margarine and sugar. Mix it well to make sure all the crumbs are moistened! Then pour 'em in the pan and press the crumbs in. The harder you press the crumbs in, the firmer the crust will come out.
Pour the coconut milk over the crumb base. Layer in your chocolate chips (or whatever goes chips), coconut, and nuts, in that order. Pat it all in until you see the milk soak up to the top.
Bake for about 30 minutes, or until the coconut and nuts are toasted and the filling is bubbling. Remove. Let the pan cool on a rack for 15 minutes. Transfer the whole thing to the fridge, and let it cool for 4 hours or overnight to make sure it's good and firm and cuttable.
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