I think he made me blush.
Sunday, May 30
How to Message a Match: Now I'm Just Gloating
hey there i find you amazing and beautiful and i haven't even talked to you yet hmmmm but i know you will give me the pleasure
How to Message a Match: Another Winner
Hi,
I just wanted to say that you are awesome, I'm quite sure. I'll message you again later.
I like this.
I just wanted to say that you are awesome, I'm quite sure. I'll message you again later.
I like this.
Wednesday, May 26
Profile No-No: Dated Photos
Isn't it a little funny that there are people out there who will post photos from back in the day on their profiles? Like not just back in the day but back in the day, you know? Photos from high school are just not appropriate. I can tell the picture isn't new! If it is new, that's weirder. And childhood photos just don't belong. The picture albums are supposed to come out later. Like after I decide I like you as you are now.
Bottom Line: Everyone looks cute as a kid so if you're trying to trick me into thinking you're still attractive, it won't work! I'm on to your conniving ways!
Bottom Line: Everyone looks cute as a kid so if you're trying to trick me into thinking you're still attractive, it won't work! I'm on to your conniving ways!
Tuesday, May 25
Can We Be Friends? A Further Note
Can a man and a woman ever just be friends?
For a short time perhaps. Making the friendship last requires that you find each other at least vaguely repulsive. Good luck!
For a short time perhaps. Making the friendship last requires that you find each other at least vaguely repulsive. Good luck!
-Quote from "Answered! Life's 25 Toughest Questions", a Reader's Digest Magazine article
Sunday, May 23
When Cute Just Doesn't Cut It
I'm kind of tired of cute. While we're at it let's throw out pretty. How about we raise the compliment bar? Here are some great adjectives that are under used.
- radiant
- enchanting
- steamy
- bewitching
- foxy
- ravishing
- stunning
- fetching
- delicious
- gorgeous
- divine
- engaging
- captivating
- breath-taking
- beautiful (totally classic and won't ever get old)
Friday, May 21
Link Time! Again!
Christina Hendrick's Dating-isms for Men
Christina seems so nice and honest and smoky-hot. She is a present day Marilyn. Her comments are smart in this article. I especially related to the one about storing away all the comments my man says about my body. She's right, it doesn't matter if it's a compliment or a comment--everything gets filed away into a steel box in my mind. And I'll even remember what he was wearing and where we were standing when he said it.
This brings me to a grander point. For women, everything is connected. Words are linked to time and place and people and emotion and situation. For men, stuff just happens. Guys say things and most of the time they're not thinking too hard. I think I'll delve into this topic in another post soon.
Christina seems so nice and honest and smoky-hot. She is a present day Marilyn. Her comments are smart in this article. I especially related to the one about storing away all the comments my man says about my body. She's right, it doesn't matter if it's a compliment or a comment--everything gets filed away into a steel box in my mind. And I'll even remember what he was wearing and where we were standing when he said it.
This brings me to a grander point. For women, everything is connected. Words are linked to time and place and people and emotion and situation. For men, stuff just happens. Guys say things and most of the time they're not thinking too hard. I think I'll delve into this topic in another post soon.
Thursday, May 20
My 6 Safety-Date Tips
1) Be conscious of all the personal information you reveal on your profile and in messages. This includes basics like your name and hometown, but also your job and your favorite hangouts.
2) Be careful about handing out your personal email and phone number. Never give away personal information too soon. It's not a bad idea to have an email account you only use for your potential dates. If your dates turn out skeevy, you can choose to never see them again--all the better if they don't know how to reach you.
3) It's safer to be a little skeptical of everyone you find. Are his profile pictures dated? Does he look older than he writes? Does his profile seem a little ridiculous to believe? It's easy to create a desired image through words. You have no access to their body language, their surroundings, their vibe. Be cautious.
4) Trust your instincts. This one may be the most important, but also not everyone is good at it. Seriously, trust the vibe you get from people--usually it's right. If you think he's holding back information or deceiving you in some way, you're probably right.
5) Meet people only when and if you feel comfortable. Don't ever feel pressured to meet someone because you should. Do it only if you want! There's no rule that says you have to give every guy a date.
6) If you do meet someone, remember he's basically a stranger. Meet in a public place preferably during the day. Someone should know where you are. I've had friends come WITH me, and sit at another table just to help me feel safer. This bit isn't necessary but I had an off feeling about the guy and my friends offered to hang out like 4 tables away.
More links: Match's Safety Tips for Dating, Safer Dates, Dating Safely
2) Be careful about handing out your personal email and phone number. Never give away personal information too soon. It's not a bad idea to have an email account you only use for your potential dates. If your dates turn out skeevy, you can choose to never see them again--all the better if they don't know how to reach you.
3) It's safer to be a little skeptical of everyone you find. Are his profile pictures dated? Does he look older than he writes? Does his profile seem a little ridiculous to believe? It's easy to create a desired image through words. You have no access to their body language, their surroundings, their vibe. Be cautious.
4) Trust your instincts. This one may be the most important, but also not everyone is good at it. Seriously, trust the vibe you get from people--usually it's right. If you think he's holding back information or deceiving you in some way, you're probably right.
5) Meet people only when and if you feel comfortable. Don't ever feel pressured to meet someone because you should. Do it only if you want! There's no rule that says you have to give every guy a date.
6) If you do meet someone, remember he's basically a stranger. Meet in a public place preferably during the day. Someone should know where you are. I've had friends come WITH me, and sit at another table just to help me feel safer. This bit isn't necessary but I had an off feeling about the guy and my friends offered to hang out like 4 tables away.
More links: Match's Safety Tips for Dating, Safer Dates, Dating Safely
Wednesday, May 19
Online Friending?
Does anyone use dating websites to seriously find friends?
All the sites make it an option. Who joins a dating website to just meet ... people? I don't want to meet people. I want to meet my soul mate, which is actually far more ridiculous. If we're being honest, I joined an online dating website to not meet people. I like the attention. Enough about me, though.
What does it mean if someone's profile says he's interested in "friendship"? Is he looking for something sexual and fleeting? Playing hard to get? Maybe he just wants the ego-stroking emails... like other people I know...
All the sites make it an option. Who joins a dating website to just meet ... people? I don't want to meet people. I want to meet my soul mate, which is actually far more ridiculous. If we're being honest, I joined an online dating website to not meet people. I like the attention. Enough about me, though.
What does it mean if someone's profile says he's interested in "friendship"? Is he looking for something sexual and fleeting? Playing hard to get? Maybe he just wants the ego-stroking emails... like other people I know...
Saturday, May 15
Link Time!
Transform a Friendship into... LOVE!
So should I stop calling that guy I like dude? When you're not interested in a guy friend, you'll call him pal or buddy or... dude. Maybe playing cool isn't all it's cracked up to be. Maybe the way to a man's heart is by wearing yours on your sleeve.
Have you ever had a friendship that you wished was more? Would the tricks in the article help you change it around?
So should I stop calling that guy I like dude? When you're not interested in a guy friend, you'll call him pal or buddy or... dude. Maybe playing cool isn't all it's cracked up to be. Maybe the way to a man's heart is by wearing yours on your sleeve.
Have you ever had a friendship that you wished was more? Would the tricks in the article help you change it around?
Profile No-No: Appearing... Dumb
My Self-Summary
looking to hang out possible relationship
live in northampton mass
interested I'm meeting new people relationship i like walking my dog and workin out
What I’m doing with my life
working construction
I’m really good at
being tottaly honest and lots of thing and talk about when we talk in person ever ones good at things
The first things people usually notice about me
no sure but maybee i ask someone becouse i hope they just notice im decent person
My favorite books, movies, music, and food
lots mostly just movies trying too get in to reading rather be outside anyway
The six things I could never do without
my dog and family basics
I spend a lot of time thinking about
trying to have a good future
On a typical Friday night I am
just realaxing or going for walk outside or a drive taking out the dog what ever seems good or comes aloung hopefully not alone
The most private thing I’m willing to admit here
i gey lonely lately
You should message me if
looking to hang out possible relationship
live in northampton mass
interested I'm meeting new people relationship i like walking my dog and workin out
What I’m doing with my life
working construction
I’m really good at
being tottaly honest and lots of thing and talk about when we talk in person ever ones good at things
The first things people usually notice about me
no sure but maybee i ask someone becouse i hope they just notice im decent person
My favorite books, movies, music, and food
lots mostly just movies trying too get in to reading rather be outside anyway
The six things I could never do without
my dog and family basics
I spend a lot of time thinking about
trying to have a good future
On a typical Friday night I am
just realaxing or going for walk outside or a drive taking out the dog what ever seems good or comes aloung hopefully not alone
The most private thing I’m willing to admit here
i gey lonely lately
You should message me if
you wanna talk seriouse about make getting together
As if that profile couldn't win me over, his message gave me even more information. The subject line read, "hi im 33 in northampton mass". The message said, "hi im 33 in northampton mass". Cool!
Monday, May 10
Saturday, May 8
Link Time!
10 Places to Meet Men
This is the advice I was looking for last night but I'm not sure if I agree with all of the ideas in this article. Dining out isn't going to work. Car shows are a smart idea... If you're in the market for a man, take a look. Tell me what you think. Do you have any great pick up spots?
This is the advice I was looking for last night but I'm not sure if I agree with all of the ideas in this article. Dining out isn't going to work. Car shows are a smart idea... If you're in the market for a man, take a look. Tell me what you think. Do you have any great pick up spots?
Thursday, May 6
How to Read a Profile
Watch out for men who want to cuddle.
Wanting to cuddle with a special girl and declaring in your profile that you love to cuddle are two different things. I love a guy who holds me a lot. I am not interested in a guy who blasts such a claim in his profile for everyone to read. Don't try so hard to convince us you have what we want. This works along the "Stop trying so hard all together" tack.
NOTE: snuggle > cuddle
photo link here
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)
