No Cupid Present

I ran the local Cupid's Chase 5k this morning. No single, hot men asked for my number. I was disappointed.


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Usernames Are Forever

mendmyheartplease

Hmmm... comes off a wee-bit needy, no? I suppose some girls might go for that sort of thing. Not me.

Horseshoes And Hand Grenades

I'm feeling melancholy. I bet you can guess why--it's about a man friend of mine.

We had something platonic, something I could easily keep at a distance from heart. He is delightful and attractive and totally fun but, from the day I met him, I figured he would be just a friend. The situation as it is, wouldn't allow for much else anyway. I made the assumption that all he would be was fun: he was without risk. What a mistake.

We spent one night together and I haven't stopped thinking about him. I saw him since but only once. Is the distance between us imagined? Things feel different; like I'm jogging to keep up with him, or waving and jumping to catch his attention. Oh, it hurts. I didn't think he was capable of disappointing me. He is such a good guy. He was so taken by me...

There are a lot of guys out there and I keep learning that there are so many ways for a guy to not work. He was so close but you know what they say, close only counts in horseshoes and hand grenades.

Dating and Farting?

There are 8 phases of dating, as the Oatmeal sees it. I just reread the comic and all I can think about is farting.  Not actually farting right this second but how guys always talk about farting and how long to wait before you can fart in front of a girl. Yesterday I read something by Jason Mraz, "I think the word fiancé translates into Permission to fart in bed." The more intimate the farting, the more intimate the relationship.

We have an example of something good about being single.

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Lines That Don't Work on a Girl

You knock me out with those american thighs.* 

*(said while slapping my thighs)

How Long Should You Wait To Reply?

Jess McCann's Blog has an answer. She says, wait 24 hours--and this isn't just for emails, this includes text messages and phone calls. She makes a really great point about how technology has helped us a lot with instant gratification. You get calls no matter what you're doing, voice messages can be checked no matter where you are, and you can text someone right back while driving in your car (wait for the stop light though). This is hindering our dating, folks! Anticipation is so much part of the appeal!

It's totally cool to wait to reply. Actually, the most recent guy I've been in contact with has been pursuing me (all the more?) despite my slow responses. I get back to him in about 5-7 days and he's right there with something new to say.

This brings me back to one of my personal rules: The guy should be pursuing you. If he's not, you're farther in than he is, i.e. bad news. You don't want to be disposable. You don't want to be the one waiting for a call on Saturday night. You certainly don't want to be the one taken advantage of. If he likes you, he'll keep at it. Guys don't give up that easily, even when they should.

Be Patient

Thanks for sharing this one, PostSecret.

Happy Groundhog Day!

Here's wishing you the life you desire, just like Bill Murray finally found after so many failed attempts.

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Link Time!

Read this article if you want a refreshing take on the difficulty of long term relationships. Relationships are easy! Or... well, not so miserable if you focus on the important stuff and all that jazz. I thought it was quite sweet.

On Spinsters

So how old is an old maid anyway? 40? 50? How much time do I have left to find a gent? And does having cats increase your chances of living in celibacy? Just curious...

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