Don't Give Up

Feeling ineffectual? Afraid this might not be your year... again? Want to give up?

Lines that Don't Work on a Girl

Don't get all sentimental on me now.

Link Time! Dating Terms to Rediscover

Bring back the old lingo!! I'm going to try actively to incorporate the words suitor, dreamboat, and beau when I'm talking about the fellas I like or get involved with. And why did going steady have to drop out of our vocabulary? It's so endearing a term!

Check out the Glamour article link here!


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Lines that Don't Work on a Girl

My friends call me quirky, others call me quite odd.

How Not to Message a Match

This was a message I got from some guy. I think he was being coy?

You should see the map
on the wall behind my bed

I checked out his profile picture. There was what looked like a picture or map behind his head, but I couldn't figure out what it was of. Anyway, he didn't explain the relevance of said map. What intrigue!

Link Time! In the Spirit of the New Year

Ready for a new start? Made your dating resolutions? READY FOR LOVE??! How about a list of things you can do to be more proactive in finding a special someone this year. The link's here!

P.S. I probably won't do any of them.

The Drawbacks of Online Dating

1. You're gonna get harassed by lousy guys. I guess this could happen just walking around the mall, too but it's a lot easier to harass by e-mail and chat than by yelling or whistling or winking or ... you get the point. Actually, this can be a good thing when you're having a day in the dumps and you would take a compliment from anyone.

2. A shit load of blind(ish) dates. If you love blind dates, then... well, what the hell's your problem? Mostly, just be prepared for lots of awkwardness: the awkward silences of just getting to know someone in a constructed setting, the awkwardness of having feelings for a guy who ain't that into you, the mega awkwardness of having to shut a dude down who just doesn't float your boat, the awkwardness of acknowledging outloud and in person that you're on an online dating website both during and after you online dating experience, and so on. Lots of awkward.

3. You may meet a guy on a whim who happens to live somewhere far away. This blows hardcore. Picture this: you've met guy after guy and they're mostly pretty good but nothing special or exciting or fun and then you hang out with a dude from, say, California (and you're a Nor'easter). Surprise! You have a connection with the fella from the west coast. This is luck playing a nasty, heartless trick on you. Luck is a bitch.

Link Time! Happy Marriages!

Here's another article about maintaining a happy, healthy relationship--something I'm quite unknowledgable about, actually. The message is to take care of yourself first. Make sure you feel supported and you're communicating what you want because if not, you won't be able to stay in it forever, right? You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else... oh, have you heard that before?

Check out the link here!

A WHOLE YEAR!

Oh, by the way, it's been a year. A year of (broken) posts about my trials and over-analyzed, minor tribulations! Hooray for me (I think)!

I got into a discussion with a young gentleman the other day about my single-dom. Yeah, it almost sounds like single-doom, which kind of works for me. How could I be single for an entire year, he wondered. Well, I suppose it's an honest question. If anyone has a good answer, let me know. This is what I've got:  Love is hard.

Cheers!

Happy New Year, beautiful people of the world. Good luck in 2011. Make those dreams come true.